Facade & Functionality

Often when I speak to people about the facade nature of identity, they take some exception. However, many, if not most, have some idea of what I’m talking about. After all, this idea of playing a role is quite pervasive in our culture; to the extent that we talk about ‘role models’ – someone to emulate in order to guide one’s behaviour. If this doesn’t point to at fundamental flaw in our notion of identity, I’m not sure what does. You are told from an early age, in this way,

Your Private Prison

Excerpted from the upcoming book by P.D. Lapinsky Your Private Prison Perhaps at some point during your life you’ve had the feeling that, in some way, your life could be more. Actually, it’s pretty much a given that at some point in your life you’ve wanted more. Perhaps you’ve felt that you weren’t living the kind of life you want to live. Something was missing. Maybe many things. Well, this is a pretty steady facet of the human condition. But, perhaps the more that you desir

Your Personal Audit

Excerpted from the upcoming book by P.D. Lapinsky. The Cornerstones of Self-Awareness. 1. Personal Audit Ok, what does mean? Well, you have to audit yourself – who and what you are, what you think yourself to be, what you think yourself not to be; what is it that constitutes you? What are your likes and dislikes? What comes to mind? Who do you think your ‘self’ to be? Take some time. Write down everything that comes to mind. Keep it available – someplace easily accessible. Ad

Negative Space

Ok – if I had to put the question to you…what is the most perturbing, irritating, potentially grating type of emotional experience you have?  I’m not specifically talking about dealing with a problematic situation, person, what-have-you.  I’m not talking about dealing with a situation that has emotional weight to it – i.e., a romantic relationship, other interpersonal or familial relationship.  Not in real time.  That’s not what I’m talking about – not exactly.  The situation


When we typically speak of awareness, we speak of something founded upon, or related to, intellectual activity; something arrived at by thinking, contemplating, what-have-you.  Intellectual awareness, the ability to draw conclusions, adequately assess one’s environment, etc., are all important and relevant to survival.  The more intellectually adept we are, the more able are we to affect the kind of change that we wish to experience.  However, when we speak of real awareness,